The Rules of the Game

first_imgWhat’s love got to do with it? Emma Bernstein on the gurus who would guide you to the perfect pickupYou might expect that the art of seduction had changed since 1 BC, but you would be mistaken. Thanks to Ovid’s Ars Amatoria, published that year, the Roman was well schooled in all manner of sly tips and tricks, which bear more than a passing resemblance to those proposed by today’s praeceptores amoris. But there’s a difference. Whereas the scandalous advice of the Ars Amatoria caused a sensation (rivalled only by a certain birth the following year) and resulted in Ovid’s extradition to the Black Sea, nowadays, the authors of dating manuals can enjoy the reverence and gratitude of their lonely-hearted readership. Undoubtedly the most notorious of the numerous guides to seduction is Neil Strauss’ 450-page tome, The Game: Undercover in the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, which has achieved cult status among its lovelorn disciples. This is no simple, step-by-step instruction manual for the wannabe lothario. Rather, the book chronicles Strauss’ initiation into the “seduction community” and his transformation from a “formless lump of nerd” into his alter-ego, Style, the “master pickup artist”. Here, seduction is a field dominated by professional predators, relying upon mind control, hypnosis and persuasion techniques. Lest there be any doubt as to the credentials of The Game, Strauss’ own proficiency is confirmed when an incautious Britney Spears gives him her number. One seduction method beloved of the pickup artist is ‘negging’, which is “to actively demonstrate a lack of interest in a beautiful woman by making an ambiguous statement, insulting her in a way that appears accidental, or offering constructive criticism”. Whilst it beggars belief that classic ‘negs’ such as “you look great – are you wearing make-up?” would melt hearts, ‘negging’ apparently has the dual effect of empowering the pickup artist and making the woman vulnerable. Other methods of seduction rely upon neuro-linguistic programming, “a form of waking hypnosis”, which uses repeated mesmerising hand movements and “flirtatious hypnospeak”. Yet its amoral techniques and nouveau jargon have only served to increase the allure of The Game, whether as a glimpse into a fascinatingly sordid enterprise or as a guide to follow with religious fervour. However, in terms of sheer notoriety, a serious contender to The Game comes in the unlikely form of The Rules – Time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr Right, its exact opposite in every way. Where The Game uses advanced mind-control and invented terminology, The Rules espouses the traditional approach, and is bloated on its own self-hype. The two authoresses assure readers that they too can “make Mr Right obsessed with having you as his by making yourself seem unattainable”, by  simply following their 35 rules. Their credentials are all in the book’s dedication: “to our wonderful husbands”. Quasi-scientific justification is offered for women playing hard to get; “men are born to respond to a challenge” and that “biologically he’s the aggressor”.Can a “good marriage” really be based upon such superficial rules? Women are advised that “if you have a bad nose, get a nose job”, are told to limit phone calls to ten minutes and to end the date first. The publications of The Rules had feminists up in arms, but the authors argue that their empowering methods enable every women to get what she wants, namely “a marriage truly made in heaven”. It remains to be considered whether the approaches of these two very different books get results.last_img read more

Joe Russo’s Almost Dead Ends Brooklyn Bowl Fall Ball With High-Octane Crowdpleasers [Videos]

first_imgOn Saturday night, Joe Russo’s Almost Dead returned to Brooklyn Bowl in Williamsburg, New York, for the sixth and final night of this year’s Fall Ball. Returning to the venue where the band was first conceived back in 2013 as a one-off project, watching Joe Russo’s Almost Dead last night on the final night of a sold-out six-night run was truly a pleasure and highlighted how far the band has come in past years. In the time since the Grateful Dead-inspired five-piece first came together at the annual, long-running Freak’s Ball (organized by the famous Freaks List of New York), the band has knocked out over 125 shows—with Saturday’s show marking their 24th performance at the Brooklyn Bowl—and collaborated with an enviable list of musicians, including Bob Weir, Phil Lesh, Oteil Burbridge, Jim James, and recently, John Mayer.John Mayer Joins Joe Russo’s Almost Dead On Night 5 Of Fall Ball [Photos/Videos]To celebrate the final night of their Fall Ball, Joe Russo’s Almost Dead was certainly in proper form, leaving nothing on the table as the sprinted toward the finish of the six-night run. Across the evening, though particularly during the second set, the band offered a number of tunes that they hadn’t played since early 2016 or before, with “Hard To Handle” making a reemergence into Almost Dead’s catalog for the first time since March 25th, 2016 at the Brooklyn Bowl (a gap of 56 songs), an “Unbroken Chain” jam returning for the first time since September 6th, 2015 at Great North Festival (a gap of 82 shows), and “Hey Bulldog” being played for the first time since July 2nd, 2016 at Aspen, Colorado’s The Belly Up (a gap of 50 shows).After a show-opening jam that landed in “Let It Grow”, Joe Russo’s Almost Dead transitioned into “Row Jimmy”, which featured teases of Paul McCartney and the Wings’ tune, “Jet.” From there, the group moved into another more formless jam, this time offering tastes of the Allman Brothers Band’s “Mountain Jam”, a song that was getting truly the royal treatment last night in New York City as Phish’s Trey Anastasio joined Tedeschi Trucks Band on a 33-minute rendition of the song inspired by Donovan’s “There Is A Mountain” at Tedeschi Trucks Band’s run-closing show at The Beacon Theatre. By way of “The Wheel”, which housed an extended “Space” before hitting “The Wheel Reprise”, Joe Russo’s Almost Dead closed out their first set with an offering of “Lost Sailor” and “Saint Of Circumstance.”Jam > “Let It Grow” “The Wheel” [Video: Tommy T]Joe Russo’s Almost Dead’s second set was a particularly high-energy offering from the group already known for its energized and creative reimaginings of Grateful Dead tunes. The band kicked things off with the forever-crowdpleaser “Shakedown Street”, which saw tastes of “Feel Like A Stranger” and “Let It Grow” worked in before it transitioned into “Hard To Handle,” the first of three tunes that reemerged from year-long hiatuses of longer. An “Unbroken Chain” jam was used to transition from “Hard To Handle” to the upbeat “China Cat Sunflower,” before the band landed into “St. Stephen,” whose extended jam portion saw teases of “I Know You Rider,” “Cosmic Charlie,” and more. The Beatles’ “Hey Bulldog” came next, before Joe Russo’s Almost Dead ended the second set with “Viola Lee Blues.”“Shakedown StreetTo close out the night in full, Pete Shapiro, Brooklyn Bowl owner and legendary concert promoter, came out to thank the New York City Freaks responsible for bringing Joe Russo’s Almost Dead together back in 2013 during the Freak’s Ball and the fan group’s continued and rabid support of the band ever since. After this sweet shoutout, the band came back out, aptly finishing off the show and their six-night Fall Ball with “One More Saturday Night.” You can check out the setlist to Joe Russo’s Almost Dead’s performance below, courtesy of Pete Costello.[Photo: Andrew Blackstein]Setlist: Joe Russo’s Almost Dead | Brooklyn Bowl | New York, NY | 10/14/2017Set One: Jam @ -> Let It Grow # -> Row Jimmy $ > Jam % -> The Wheel ^ -> Space -> The Wheel Reprise -> Lost Sailor & -> Saint Of Circumstance *Set Two: Shakedown Street + -> Hard To Handle @@ -> Unbroken Chain Jam ## -> China Cat Sunflower -> Saint Stephen $$ -> Hey Bulldog %% -> Viola Lee BluesEncore: One More Saturday [email protected] – With “In A Silent Way” (Joe Zawinul & Miles Davis) Teases (MB)# – With a Slipknot! Tease (JR & TH)$ – With a “Jet” (Paul McCartney and Wings) Tease (MB)% – With a “Mountain Jam” (Donovan/Allman Brothers Band) Tease (Band)^ – With a “Riders On The Storm” (The Doors) Tease (MB)& – With a St. Stephen Tease (TH)* – With a Terrapin Station Tease (MB) & The Wheel Tease (Band)+ – With a Feel Like A Stranger Tease (Band) and a Let It Grow Tease (Band). [email protected]@ – With Unbroken Chain Teases (TH) and Let It Grow Teases (Band). Not played by since 2016.03.25 at Brooklyn Bowl. Brooklyn, NY, a gap of 56 shows## – Not played since 2015-09-06 at Great North Festival, Last Breath Farm, Norridgewock, ME, a gap of 82 shows. With a Here Comes Sunshine Tease (Band)$$ – With multiple teases including Cosmic Charlie & I Know You Rider, I think%% – Not played since 2016-07-02 at The Belly Up, Aspen, CO, a gap of 50 showslast_img read more

Huntington Station Man Injured in Drive-by Shooting

first_imgSign up for our COVID-19 newsletter to stay up-to-date on the latest coronavirus news throughout New York A 23-year-old Huntington Station man was shot during a drive-by shooting Wednesday night, Suffolk County police said. Sheldon Leftenant was struck when two vehicles passed by his Tippin Drive home and fired into a group of people. Leftenant suffered a gunshot wound to the groin, police said. He was transported to Huntington Hospital with non-life threatening injuries before undergoing surgery at North Shore University Hospital in Manhasset, police said. No arrests have been made in the shooting.Police said the investigation is continuing. Detectives ask any witnesses to contact the Second Squad at 631-854-8252 or call Crime Stoppers anonymously at 1-800-220-TIPS.last_img read more

Suspect Charged With 2011 Mastic Beach Murder

first_imgSign up for our COVID-19 newsletter to stay up-to-date on the latest coronavirus news throughout New York A Medford man was arrested Thursday for allegedly killing a 26-year-old woman in her Mastic Beach home seven years ago, Suffolk County police said.William Hubbard was charged with second-degree murder in the death of Shanell Malave.Homicide Squad detectives alleged the 48-year-old suspect killed the victim at her Magnolia Drive home, where officers responding to a report of an unresponsive woman found Malave dead in her bed at 1:20 p.m. Tuesday, May 24, 2011.The Suffolk County Medical Examiner’s office later determined that Malave’s death was a homicide.Hubbard was taken into custody on County Road Route 111 in Manorville at 7:30 p.m. Thursday. He was held overnight and is scheduled to be arraigned Friday at Suffolk County court in Riverhead.last_img read more

5 reasons to outsource your mortgage lending business

first_img 27SHARESShareShareSharePrintMailGooglePinterestDiggRedditStumbleuponDeliciousBufferTumblr While the intent of regulations like the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau’s (CFPB) TILA-RESPA Integrated Disclosure (TRID) rule is to protect borrowers, many lenders, especially small- to mid-sized ones, continue to struggle with the requirements.CFPB’s mortgage guidelines today exceed more than 900 pages and the TRID rule tops 2,000, forcing many community banks and credit unions to rethink their role in the mortgage industry.And at the same time, the total costs of loan production expenses have increased. (See related coverage in Housing Industry Forum.)Many community financial institutions are struggling to overcome the hurdles of rising costs and risks of originating mortgage loans. Ultimately, many are deciding mortgages fail to meaningfully contribute to their profits and are leaving the business entirely.However, there is a way for organizations to continue to offer the mortgage products their customers both want and need. The answer is outsourcing. With outsourcing, community financial institutions can be a greater competitive force in the banking marketplace and remain profitable for the long term. continue reading »last_img read more

Why are Chinese and Indian troops fighting in a remote Himalayan valley?

first_imgWhat happened?Since early May, hundreds of Indian and Chinese soldiers have confronted each other at three locations along their border, each side accusing the other of trespassing.The clashes at Galwan took place on Monday night even as both armies were trying to de-escalate the stand-off, with military commanders having met for talks in recent days.During discussions, soldiers from China’s People’s Liberation Army turned on a group of Indian troops, which included an officer, attacking them with iron rods and stones, an Indian government source said.No shots had been fired, the source said.India’s foreign ministry spokesman Anurag Srivastava said that the “violent face-off” was the result of an attempt by the Chinese side to unilaterally change the status quo.Chinese officials said that Indian troops had twice crossed the Line of Actual Control (LAC), the de facto border, and launched an attack, triggering a fierce physical confrontation.Zhao Lijian, a Chinese foreign ministry spokesman, said that “the Indian side severely violated our consensus and twice crossed the border line and provoked and attacked the Chinese forces.”Why now?Military experts say one reason for the current face-off is that India has been building roads and airfields to improve connectivity and narrow the gap with China’s superior infrastructure on its side of the LAC.At Galwan, India completed a road leading to an airfield last October. This was opposed by China, which asked India to stop all construction.India says it is operating on its side of the LAC.History of clashesA past agreement between the two sides stipulates patrols should not open fire near the LAC. Violent, high-altitude disputes have erupted several times without guns being involved.The deaths were the first since a major border clash in 1967 between the nuclear-armed neighbors, which are also the world’s two most populous countries. Hundreds were killed in those battles.Both countries claim vast swathes of each other’s territory along their Himalayan border, with some disagreements rooted in demarcations by British colonial administrators of India.India and China fought a brief but bloody border war in 1962 and distrust has occasionally led to flare-ups ever since. Infrastructure building near or within disputed territories is often blamed for increases in tensions.The LAC is largely based on the ceasefire line after the war in 1962, but both sides disagree on where it lies.The last major dispute took place in 2017 on the remote Doklam plateau near the borders of India, Bhutan, and China, at the eastern end of the 4,056 kilometer long border. After a tense standoff both sides agreed to an “expeditious disengagement” of troops, according to India’s foreign ministry. Here are the key details:Where was the fighting? The clashes took place at a disputed border site in the Galwan area of Ladakh, in the western Himalayas, where Indian and Chinese troops have been facing off. The area is at an altitude of around 14,000 feet, where temperatures often fall to under zero degrees Celsius.The disputed site lies amid remote jagged mountains and fast flowing rivers on the northern tip of India, abutting the Aksai Chin plateau that is claimed by India but is administered by China. Topics :center_img The Indian army has said at least 20 of its soldiers were killed after hand-to-hand fighting with Chinese troops at a disputed border site on Monday night, in the deadliest clash between the two Asian giants in decades.China said its troops were engaged in a “violent physical confrontation” with Indian soldiers, but has given no details of those killed or wounded.The Indian army and India’s foreign ministry have said both sides suffered casualties after their troops clashed, even as the two countries were trying to resolve a weeks-long border standoff.last_img read more

Giddy up: equestrian identities list waterfront mansion

first_img7 Knightsbridge Pde West, Sovereign Islands is on the market for $7.2 million.AN award-winning mansion belonging to a high-profile equestrian couple on Sovereign Islands has hit the market for $7.2 million.Property records show the four-bedroom, five-bathroom house named Santosha — Sanskrit for contenment — was bought by Ken Dowsett and Linda Spratley for $5.1 million in late 2015. The bedrooms boast luxury ensuites. There is a dedicated theatre room.The couple had previously built an ultra-modern homestead on a dressage and equine estate on 2.57 hectares at Mudgeeraba — the property was described as a hidden valley guarded by gates, flanked by two black stallions. The residence features stunning water views.The waterfront mansion features a cinema, cellar, library, wet bar and pool.There are 24 properties currently on the market along Knightsbridge Parade. center_img Designer bathrooms with automatic lighting and dual rain head showers. More from news02:37Purchasers snap up every residence in the $40 million Siarn Palm Beach Northless than 1 hour ago02:37International architect Desmond Brooks selling luxury beach villa20 hours agoThe home has an interior water feature.last_img read more

Scandinavian investor seeks systematic ‘trend following’ fund via IPE Quest

first_imgA Scandinavian investor is tendering a €50m global “cross-asset, systematic trend following” mandate via IPE Quest.The investor requires a UCITS fund and has a minimum volatility target of 10%.According to search QN-2324, interested parties should have at least €10bn of assets under management, and €1bn for this particular asset class or approach.Applicants should state performance to 31 March, gross of fees. The deadline is 16 June.  A Dutch pension fund, meanwhile, is researching managers and strategies for emerging market debt (EMD) and government bond mandates via IPE Quest’s Discovery service.The emerging market debt mandate is for a €50m allocation, while the global government bond mandate will receive €20m.For the EMD allocation (IPE Quest reference DS-2323), the pension fund wants an actively managed, investment grade bond strategy. Managers pitching their ideas should have a track record of at least five years.The global government bond option (IPE Quest reference DS-2322) should be a passive strategy, the pension fund said. It should also be investment grade only, and offered through a pooled fund.The deadline for both searches is 7 June.The IPE news team is unable to answer any further questions about IPE Quest, Discovery, or Innovation tender notices to protect the interests of clients conducting the search. To obtain information directly from IPE Quest, please contact Jayna Vishram on +44 (0) 20 3465 9330 or email [email protected]last_img read more

Infamous bikie Ricky Ciano’s luxury Gold Coast unit hits the market

first_imgRicky Ciano with wife Rachel Ciano.THE Surfers Paradise beachfront apartment of an infamous bikie who died in suspicious circumstances following a “hot shot of drugs” is set to go under the hammer.Ricky Ciano, a former president of the Sydney chapter of the Rebels bikie gang, paid $915,000 for his luxury Glitter Strip home in 2016.The Surfers Paradise beachfront apartment of infamous bikie Ricky Ciano is set to go under the hammer. Source: realestate.com.auBUYERS GET BANG FOR BUCKFAMILY HOME COMES WITH HOT DEALCiano died aged 35 between February 13 and February 14 last year.His partially clothed body was found in the back seat of his BMW M3 at Duckmaloi, in western NSW, close to a makeshift ice lab hidden in a farmhouse.The NSW police homicide squad is investigating his death and while murder by a “hot shot” of drugs has not been ruled out, they are also examining whether he committed suicide or died from an overdose.Ricky Ciano with wife Rachel Ciano.Justice Peter Applegarth on May 16 ordered Brisbane solicitor Prudence Poole be appointed administrator of Mr Ciano’s estate.Justice Applegarth ordered Ms Poole be registered as the owner of Ricky Ciano’s beachfront apartment, and for his widow Rachel Ciano to move out when it is sold.The three-bedroom residence, in the Mustique building on Main Beach Pde, is being taken to auction through Ray White Prestige Gold Coast’s Robert Graham.The apartment offers beachfront views. Source: realestate.com.auMore from news02:37International architect Desmond Brooks selling luxury beach villa16 hours ago02:37Gold Coast property: Sovereign Islands mega mansion hits market with $16m price tag2 days agoThe view from the balcony. Source: realestate.com.auFrom the air. Source: realestate.com.auWhile Mr Graham declined to comment, the listing refers to the residence as an “affordable whole floor beachfront apartment”.“Mustique is an exclusive beachfront address of just ten whole-floor apartments offering the best of both worlds — stroll into Surfers Paradise or head north to fashionable Main Beach for elegant shopping and dining,” the listing states.“With a parkland reserve and the beach directly opposite, this entire fourth floor residence is ideally positioned, yet very private.“The 224sq m three-bedroom plus study apartment enjoys views from every room with the master stunningly positioned overlooking the beach side with large ensuite and walk in robe.”The property is going to auction on August 2.The bathroom. Source: realestate.com.auThe kitchen. Source: realestate.com.auVideo Player is loading.Play VideoPlayNext playlist itemMuteCurrent Time 0:00/Duration 0:40Loaded: 0%Stream Type LIVESeek to live, currently playing liveLIVERemaining Time -0:40 Playback Rate1xChaptersChaptersDescriptionsdescriptions off, selectedCaptionscaptions settings, opens captions settings dialogcaptions off, selectedQuality Levels720p720pHD540p540p360p360p270p270pAutoA, selectedAudio Trackdefault, selectedFullscreenThis is a modal window.Beginning of dialog window. Escape will cancel and close the window.TextColorWhiteBlackRedGreenBlueYellowMagentaCyanTransparencyOpaqueSemi-TransparentBackgroundColorBlackWhiteRedGreenBlueYellowMagentaCyanTransparencyOpaqueSemi-TransparentTransparentWindowColorBlackWhiteRedGreenBlueYellowMagentaCyanTransparencyTransparentSemi-TransparentOpaqueFont Size50%75%100%125%150%175%200%300%400%Text Edge StyleNoneRaisedDepressedUniformDropshadowFont FamilyProportional Sans-SerifMonospace Sans-SerifProportional SerifMonospace SerifCasualScriptSmall CapsReset restore all settings to the default valuesDoneClose Modal DialogEnd of dialog window.This is a modal window. This modal can be closed by pressing the Escape key or activating the close button.Close Modal DialogThis is a modal window. This modal can be closed by pressing the Escape key or activating the close button.PlayMuteCurrent Time 0:00/Duration 0:00Loaded: 0%Stream Type LIVESeek to live, currently playing liveLIVERemaining Time -0:00 Playback Rate1xFullscreenCelebrity bust ups00:40last_img read more

Make the move to ‘Mykonos’

first_img Reno passion project pays off The rooftop terrace has sublime ocean views. Features such as thick windowsills and doorways, an earthy colour scheme and seamless indoor and outdoor living gives a sense of comfort. The remodelled kitchen features two dishwashers, granite benchtops, ample storage and a large island. Even the interior styling, which is being sold with the property, will have you dreaming of a Mediterranean escape.“They did a major renovation of the kitchen and living areas, they put in solar and they extended the terrace at the front,” Mr Conolly said. Every element has a European feel, from the ornate doorways to the handmade banister, the soaring tower with your very own observation room and a rooftop terrace. Luxury Noosa home fetches $8 million Four bedrooms are housed downstairs, including the master suite with views over the sparkling pool and spa as well as out to a sunny, private courtyard. MAMMA MIA: ‘Mykonos’ on Duke St, Sunshine Beach (Noosa) will have you thinking you’ve arrived on the Cyclades island for the Grecian summer. The home can accommodate up to 16 people with the library and tower observation room (pictured) offering extra sleeping space. RELATED:center_img Inspired by the whitewashed houses lining the hills of Mykonos, Greece, this Noosa home will have you thinking you’ve transported to the Cyclades island for the Grecian summer. Ricciardo living in lap of luxury Every element has a European influence. More from newsParks and wildlife the new lust-haves post coronavirus13 hours agoNoosa’s best beachfront penthouse is about to hit the market13 hours agoThe kitchen and living spaces have undergone an extensive renovation since the owner purchased the property in 2011.“Obviously the painting and the general maintenance has been excellent and they did a full renovation of all the bathrooms and then they’ve furnished it, so it’s suitable, or perfect for a holiday rental.“Overall it’s in great condition and the presentation is awesome.” MORE: Designed almost 30 years ago by a couple of artists and almost completely overhauled by the current owner, selling agent Century 21 Conolly Hay Group co-principal David Conolly said Mykonos House is known to Sunshine Beach locals as “The Palace”. >>FOLLOW EMILY BLACK ON FACEBOOK<< And it’s no wonder why, as it was one of the first million-dollar builds in Sunshine Beach and has private parking for up to six cars and when used as a holiday home, it can accommodate up to 16 people with the library and tower observation room offering extra sleeping space. There is even an inground pool.last_img read more